I'd like to say
that it doesn't matter to me about money, career, or ambition, that I would ideally be content with a complement, someone who is at ease doing the things that can be challenging for me, and vice versa. I'd like to say that what we have to do in the work world to make ends meet doesn't really matter to me. I'd like to say that what's really important is that both people are happy, or as happy as they can be. I'm an educated professional and I make good money. I'd like to say that I don't need my partner to be likewise educated or professional or to make as much money. I'd like to say that I would support my partner through a career change and would hope for the same in return. I'm not especially happy in my career anymore, I've been at it a long time, I am endangered by obsolescence and I need a change. And any change I make will drastiy change my income, my professional standing, etc. It would probably be difficult for both partners to be in the same place at the same time but I'd like to say that in a true partnership it would work out somehow. I'd like to say all of the above but from my perspective, equality matters. Equality of drive, ambition, education, professionalism and even income. The reality is that very few of us get to actually do what we love. The majority of us are putting foot in front of the other, trying to carve out a living the best we can and we need to know that our significant others are doing at least the same, working at least as hard for the money. Nobody is going to take the risk of loving me right now or considering me as a partner knowing that I need such a fundamental change in my life. People expect equality and balance and while I have it to offer right now, it's a precarious balance. Making me a pretty lousy prospect which, sadly, I completely understand. That's my take anyway.