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hedda

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2011-01-03 1-00-26-

short musings on marriage everytime I see someone quoting divorce statistics, especialy when it comes to younger people wanting to marry - this thought comes to mind. If you are thinking of divorce before you are even married- you shoudln't be marryingina first place. If you cannot marry with a clear and sure knowledge that you will do whatever it takes to make your marriage work, that you want to be with this person for the rest of your life - you shoudln't be getting married. oh and what's with a kneejerk reaction of "you are too young to get married" ? I understand when someone says it AFTER listening to the person in question speak and learning more about them and their views, but straight out of the blue? WHat do you know of their maturity level, their relationship and their life before they decided to get married? What do you know about their personality and how it will change in a couse of the next few years (if at all)? not much if anything. which means you are not qualified to say "you are too young" musings over
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2011-01-03 14-08-21

Divorce stats are misleading. You can't take the number from an average slice of the population and apply it to yourself. If you are going to look at stats, look at the ones which are specific to your demographic group. Stats for younger people marrying are higher, which is why people say 'you are too young.' Of course there are exceptions, but this is where the thought stems from. For example, stats for people in different religions are higher. And the list goes on. Stats for people who are above thirty, in a certain earnings group, in a shared religion, etc., are lower. Should you think about the likelihood of the marriage surviving before you marry? ABSOLUTELY. That doesn't mean you shouldn't be marrying in the first place, it means you are making informed decisons about a very important step in life. You wouldn't buy a house without an inspection, and that's far less.
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2011-01-03 17-51-07

true true but if you are thinking of your marriage and planning for what to do in case of the divorce - that doesn't bode well for the marriage. IMO. and for statistics? i don't think they shoudl aplly to personal relationships at all, becasue even similar demografics, age, etc are STILL not you. they are people in similar situation but they are not YOU. Statistics can only track occurances and people, but they cannot help you in any way. again IMO.
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2011-01-03 22-24-30

No says you have to live your life by stats. But refusing to acknowledge them is a sign of immaturity in and of itself. Accept that being young, or whatever, will likely provide added stresses to the marriage and plan to deal with those stresses up front.
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    2011-01-04 5-28-10-

    yes, sure but not becasue of statistics, but rather becasue of your own personal situation. I'm not refusing to aknowldge statistics, but rather, I think that decisions shoudl be made based on individual situations without statistics creating unnessesary doubts and fears. here's a statistic - birth control fails. Depending on which you use, the rate of failure can be as high as 10%. Depending on your personal physiology, you might not be able to use the with a smaller failure rate. Do you stop having sex? Or do you aknowledge the dangers and proceed adjusting your plans depending on your personal situation (in my case - we didn't want to have straight out of the wedding, so I'm not just talking premarital sex either -i'm talking general family planning)
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    2011-01-04 13-44-20

    To use your own example: Would you opt for the birth control method with the higher failure rate, or the lower one, all other things being equal? That's what maturely looking at statistics means. It does not mean saying, "Yes, those statistics are high, but that has nothing to do with ME!"
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    2011-01-04 16-38-11

    aaah, so you didn't notice the second part where I say, what if your are physiologicaly incapable of using the method with lower failure rate? plus there's a difference between statistics as they aply to manmade devices, vs living breathing individuals.
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    wyffels

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    2011-01-05 12-05-08

    I did notice it. Which is why I said, "all things being equal". Reply is the same.
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    2011-01-11 14-22-44

    ok then
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  • christ

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    2011-02-14 16-30-14

    by the way, your last sentence it applies in some cases, not in others - specificaly it applies in cases where outcome is a certainty. for instance - if you cross the street on a red light, its pretty much a certainty that sooner or later you will be hit by a car. statisticaly, not every person who crosses ona red light will get hit, but crossing the street on a redlight habitualy is like playing with fire - asking to become a statistic. and yes youcan be hit by a car while crossing the road on a green light or hell even staying on a pedestrian part of the road, and there are statistics that illustrate that as well, but in this case its not a certainty. marriage is all about a human factor. it cannot be generalized or defined exactly becasue its different with every individual relationship. we can only define legal parameters. You don't know if you will be divorced becasue you got married young, not unless you are getting married with ridiculous expectations, for the wrong reasons, and without clear understanding of your relationship. But then again - those are not limited to age either.
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  • orchard

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    2011-04-02 2-24-08-

    Are you talking about a prenup Because in this day and age that is not preparing for divorce but taking out an insurance policy to protect yourself in the event you are a statistic.
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    2011-05-12 2-39-41-

    yeah, it's protecting your assets just like insu insurance
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    2011-10-21 10-53-27

    not quite. if you are preparing yourself for a possibility of being a statistic, you shoudl rethink your relationship, slow it down, not marry yet. Its a certainty that everyone at some point will get sick, so medical insurance is a must (for some more then others) its a certainty that we will get older and will not have the same earning potential, so its important to save for the retirement. Its a certainty that we all die eventualy, so its important to have a life policy and if you have assets you want to distribute a certain way - a will. Its a certainty that if you are fertile and having unprotected sex - you will become pregnant. its a certainty that if you are having unprotected sex with multiple partners, sooner or later you will catch something. SO in both cases - you have to protect yourself. Divorce is not a certainty. If you feel like it is becasue statisticaly x% of marriages in your age/income/watever bracket fail - you might as well not marry. If you worry about becoming a statistic so much, I think you should rethink your priorities
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    2012-07-10 14-55-51

    Disagree Marry without a prenup is okay if you are both with nothing to lose. Getting a prenup is not preparing for divorce. Any person that puts up any argument about signing such a document is someone that should not be marrying...not the other way around.
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  • zuccaro

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    any person that feels the need to ask for such document has to rethink his or her relationship very carefuly. maybe take a bit more time before they actualy marry. prenups are all good and nice and nessesary when you are marrying for reasons other then love (and I see nothing wrong with arranged marraige aslong as all involved parties know what thy are getting into). But when you are marrying for love? if you feel thatyou need a prenup - that means that you don't trust the person you're marrying (or yourself), that means that you doubt your love and your desire to keep marriage going. It all depends on your priorities and relationships preferences. Maybe its good to know that you stand to lose something in case of divorce, you might be more willing to work on a relationship, rather then just give up on it (after all, you are protected by that piece of paper you both signed in the begining). To me - prenups can undermine relationships more then they protect them.
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  • seed

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    2014-02-19 20-51-13

    marrying young - i was hell bent on marrying young and i did. nothing anyone said to me would have made a difference at all. i knew everything then - LOL. i think if you tell young people "you are too young to marry" it makes it a challenge for them and they are then determined to do it anyway. just my musings on that subject!
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    I agree absolutely!!! it doesn't just work with young people either, but when you tell someone that they cannto do something, in most cases, you are challenging them to prove to you that they can. This is something that i've learned at a very young age, whcih is why I've been able to marry young with a clear head, and not becasue I had something to prove (lets just say i've witnessed a spectacular failure of the "you cannot" tactic and decided that I will never cut off my nose to spite my face and recently i've witnessed anotehr spectacular failure of this tactic in regards to another friend of mine and her son) Maybe, just maybe if those wll meaning people will phrase their opinions differently, act supportive instead of saying "you can't" and use delaying tactics. For instance saying "you are very young but very smart, so if you want to marry this man/woman - I will support your decision. How about wating though, or taking cummuication classes, or making a trial run of living together, etc", just formulate it depending on a situation.
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    2015-10-24 14-28-46

    pretty much, i don't like anyone to tell me i can't do something. it makes me want to do it more.
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    2015-12-15 21-01-32

    sure, maturity varies among young people but there is physical aging in the brain that doesn't finalize til mid xs. So people under x ARE immature regardless of their psychological health, their brain has not fully formed. the last part to form is the decision making part, so yes, I can say most people in early xs are too immature to marry because their decision makeing neurons are not fully formed. this is why your auto insurance goes down drastiy at x.
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  • Jap

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    2015-12-27 19-29-10

    Wild guess, but... Are you a relatively young person who wants to get married or just did?
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    lol, not even close I;ma middle aged person, who's been married for a pretty long time and who just read a few posts on the forum that reminded her ofa few things.
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